Having another adult in the home of a newly married couple does change things, even if that adult is a friend. Adam's face is still the first one I see in the morning, buy shortly after that another face and voice joins us for breakfast. It's no longer solitude that greets me when I come home at 2:00 but another voice, and usually music, country or classic rock.
It's taking some getting used to and some training. The first couple times Adam came home and instead of seeking me out to talk to first, it was Sunny. Right then I decided that in order for our living situation to work, we all have to be up front and honest with one another, rather than let small annoyances build up to the point of an emotional explosion.
As silly as it seems, it's often the little things that annoy in the long term enough to cause problems. So far we're taking one step at a time and it's going okay. And yes, maybe I'm a little selfish to feel I need to make sure I'm still #1 to Adam, but it helps me to know things haven't changed too much.
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